I met with an uncle today. He was my family doctor and my grandmother’s brother. He was travelling with his family from 10 days and had stoppage in my hometown. So for a nice gesture me and my brother had to go there to meet them with our parents.
It was a nice meeting. They got an hotel to stay, we gave them some home cooked dinner and sat together for a while. As we were talking about the trip and next days plan he in a very sweet manner looked at me, smiled and told he will be happy to eat anything made my me.My brother, father was there, all family was there. But naturally he asked me. Nobody asked him or said anything. I smiled and my mother nodded.
But was it right?It didn't bother at that moment, but just when we were coming to home, something bothered me. I kept on thinking is this natural? Is it okay to ask just because I am a girl. Maybe he didn't mean that. Maybe nothing was intentional. The well educated doctor is not thinking before assuming then how others will. But this is as it is. No one asked my brother to cook. No one asked for my papa.
This is our society. As in this era , we are looking equality , we are far behind this. This biasness is very deeply rooted in every person. Not just men, but women of our society are also victim of this dangerous and contagious disease.
Luckily my parents does not discriminate, but they also didn't understand that this was wrong for him to assume that I will by default will know cooking.
I don’t know what is wrong and what is right?I don’t know should I ask about this or would it make any difference if i had something that time in front of them. What will happen if I had taken stand for me? Would it matter? Is this a thing to think ? Should I be concerned about it ?
